I feel like TED talks have a lot to answer for. We live in the age of motivational videos and ‘never give up’ memes. But what if you should give up? What if?
To be clear, I have nothing against TED talks but this blog just isn’t one of them. I understand that if you’re an ‘entrepreneur’ you need to work hard, do whatever it takes and accept failures (blah blah blah) if you want to succeed. Probably no one gets it more than me and I consider myself a doer. All that motivational stuff you hear is true. It has value.
However! Dreams change right? OR, sometimes your dream wasn’t all that it was cracked up to be. Sometimes your dreams suck. And that’s ok.
Usually when you start a business, you have visions of grandeur. Sure, you know it’ll be hard work but it’ll be worth it. You’re committed. You’ll start up like a bull out of a gate, full of optimism and energy to ‘do whatever it takes’. Every step of this process will be valuable and you won’t regret it.
There is a fair chance you’ll experience success in every way. If you’re like me, you’ll achieve all your business goals. There will be years of absolutely loving the ride. But somewhere along the way, maybe it starts to lose it’s shine.
How can something you loved so much suddenly become such a hindrance? This must be one of those ‘entrepreneur pits’ you hear about. But what if it isn’t?
I’ve heard this story many times before. I’ve read between the lines when I listen to my friends talk about a business they once felt so much passion for. They want out, but isn’t quitting wrong? Isn’t that giving up? We’re supposed to NEVER. Give. Up.
So how about this? Dreams change and that’s ok!
You are allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to decide to give up on what you thought was a dream, but turned out to really be a big fat nightmare. Ok, I like to dramatise, maybe you just didn’t love it as much as you thought. It’s all OK!
So how do you know when it’s time to quit on your dreams? Well truth is, you could just be in a temporary rut. You should definitely go Marie Kondo on your business in slow motion, i.e – take a few months to see if it sparks joy before you toss it! Ask yourself over and over again – “at the end of my life, will I look back and wish I tried harder to make this work?”
Dreams change and that’s ok. Sometimes you need to close the door on one, to open on another.